First off, we can rule out love at first sight. Although I think it is possible to desire at first sight, or be attracted from across the room, maybe even lust at first sight, by its very nature, love at first sight is a contradiction of terms. You don't love with your eyes.
Next, the soul-mates thing is out. There is no single person in the world for each of us. If there were, no one would ever get together, because the odds of meeting the one other person in the world meant for you would be astronomical. Depending on the personality type, I think there maybe hundreds or even thousands of people out there for you. Then again, if you're a jerk, there might not be any. But definitely not one. No matter what, if one freak exists who could love you, there must be more out there somewhere .
Now, you may say, "This all sounds very negative to me, without all this, what's left?" How about love based on genuine human interaction? The subject must be taken off of a pedestal and brought down to our level for closer inspection. Things like language, geography, culture, and dumb luck all determine which of the many people that are right for us we come into contact with, and from there, you have to talk to the person and get to know them rather than hop in the sack or declare your undying love. It's too soon for either. It's similar to the Buddha's middle path: if you go to one extreme and try to force love it can be just as bad as going to the other extreme and ignoring or scorning love. Things like poetry and Shakespeare are dangerous because they express love in hyperbole for those that have experienced the real thing, meanwhile those who haven't mistake the exaggeration for reality.
Or at least, that's what I think.
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